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Child Development

BackTalk Down

Put An End to Backtalk

“I hate you”, “make me”, and the especially popular “no”, are only three of the many different forms of backtalk I experience on a weekly basis. It happens mostly without warning, at odd times, when I half expect that we’ll make it through the week without this problem coming up, before—WHAM—I’m slammed by an “I hate you”, sending my heart reeling. Now, I’m not naïve enough to believe that my kids mean it when they say this to me, for the most part they don’t have even an inkling of what the word hate even means. Neither am I silly enough to imagine that I won’t hear it again, most probably when it reappears in their teen years (but that’s another topic for another day), meaning that for the time being at least, I’m stuck trying to deal with it in the here and now.preschool

Backtalk, or rude responses to the person in charge, is typically used in reference to kids who are just coming into their own and learning to express their feelings verbally rather than through tears. Most normally found in preschool classrooms, backtalk is triggered by a child’s need to exert some form of power in situations and establish dominancy over another. While some form of confidence is encouraged in toddlers, backtalk is usually something worth putting an end to early on, so as to avoid a rebellious and excessively rude teenager.

You’re lying if you tell me you haven’t experienced some form of backtalk, after all, it comes in many shapes and sizes, just like our children. Whether you’ve heard something from my personal list, or something more creative, you’re likely wondering how to go about putting an end to it, while keeping your toddler from losing their natural confidence and therefore maintain their growing leadership skills.

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Join the Club: the Babysitter’s Club

Tips for Searching for the Right Baby Sitter

Like most every teenage girl, I spent a great amount of time searching for babysitting jobs in my neighborhood to make some extra cash. Particularly as a preteen, after the boom of “the Babysitter’s Club”, I took my career seriously, investing in name cards for my would-be clients and posters signaling my desire to further my career. All this while gathering with my best friend, and neighbor, to make our plan of attack for the summer camp we’d create to watch our sure to be huge influx of clients. Of course, preschool playour summer camp never happened, my mom promptly removed my posters from telephone poles, and my client’s name cards went, for the most part, unused. I guess in a world where it’s hard to trust just anyone, my mom wasn’t willing to put my phone number or information out there for the world to see.

My how times have changed.

These days, looking for a babysitter for your young ones is not only much easier to do, but slightly more stressful as well. With things such as iPhones and computers taking over our pre-teen and teenager’s worlds, it’s hard to separate the responsible, from those who simply want the house alone for the night. Not to mention, there’s always the problem of finding someone available on the days and times that you need them. A night after work is often problematic for those still in school, while a weekend night might turn your potential sitter off because it’s likely their night off as well. Granted, you’d think that a sitter seriously looking at looking toward making some money will of course jump at the chance to work regardless of the night, but unfortunately that’s not always the case.

With so many factors playing a role in your babysitting needs, and your child’s care resting in the palm of their teen hands, it’s important to take considerable thought over who you choose to care for your toddler.

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Child Development

Bully On Me Part II

Advice for Dealing With Bullies

When I was little, I was teased mercilessly for a variety of things. In preschool it was for my smile, because it wasn’t like everyone else’s smiles and only showed my top row of teeth. While in the third grade it was because my last name was the same as the gasoline provider at camp (causing me to promptly be called ‘Gas’ for the remainder of the year), and in sixth grade it was because my body was adjusting to that ever loving period of life: puberty. It wasn’t until years later as an adult that I even realized that I was something more than a punching bag, or for that matter, that others were teased just as much as I was at some point or another. Now looking back, I’m able to recognize that bullies are everywhere, waiting to prey on those even mildly different from them.

What is perhaps most startling to find, is that bullying does not wait until we’ve reached our brain’s full capacity of understanding. As discussed in a previous post, bullying begins as young as the preschool level, before preschoolers even understand what they’re doing. At 3-5 years old, our kids are only just beginning to learn how to articulate what they mean to say 1415869_31101194and think, while trying to wrap themselves in the world around them. While this is happening, however, they partake in roles around the playground, finding him or herself as either the alpha or underdog, as bullying patterns are created and honed. Because this age group is unaware of what they are doing and is only exerting qualities of their own personality, it’s important for we—the parents—to keep a keen eye and handle the situations as they come.
If you think your child is exhibiting early signs of bullying you’ll want to visit this post here for advice and tips for how to help your child learn how not to act, if your child is the subject of the bullying, you’ll want to keep reading.

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