Put An End to Backtalk
“I hate you”, “make me”, and the especially popular “no”, are only three of the many different forms of backtalk I experience on a weekly basis. It happens mostly without warning, at odd times, when I half expect that we’ll make it through the week without this problem coming up, before—WHAM—I’m slammed by an “I hate you”, sending my heart reeling. Now, I’m not naïve enough to believe that my kids mean it when they say this to me, for the most part they don’t have even an inkling of what the word hate even means. Neither am I silly enough to imagine that I won’t hear it again, most probably when it reappears in their teen years (but that’s another topic for another day), meaning that for the time being at least, I’m stuck trying to deal with it in the here and now.
Backtalk, or rude responses to the person in charge, is typically used in reference to kids who are just coming into their own and learning to express their feelings verbally rather than through tears. Most normally found in preschool classrooms, backtalk is triggered by a child’s need to exert some form of power in situations and establish dominancy over another. While some form of confidence is encouraged in toddlers, backtalk is usually something worth putting an end to early on, so as to avoid a rebellious and excessively rude teenager.
You’re lying if you tell me you haven’t experienced some form of backtalk, after all, it comes in many shapes and sizes, just like our children. Whether you’ve heard something from my personal list, or something more creative, you’re likely wondering how to go about putting an end to it, while keeping your toddler from losing their natural confidence and therefore maintain their growing leadership skills.